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1. Meditate, first thing in the morning

Meditation is the single most effective tool for getting out of your head and into your body. Why? Because if teaches you both of the two skills necessary to get more into your body: consciously directing your attention and directing it onto your experience of life. I’m sure that anyone who’s meditated regularly for any amount of time (including me) will be able to tell you the incredible benefits they received from it. The benefits of meditation are SO important that every day of both Get Real and Be Powerful have a meditation component to them. The timing of your meditation is also very important. Consciously directing your attention on your experience of life is a skill. The more you practice it, the better you get at it. Also, when you practice it, that skill carries over into the rest of your life. If you start your day analysing, thinking, and deconstructing, then you’re most likely going to carry that mindset through the day and into the night. If you start the day just feeling and experiencing the moment, you’re going to carry that throughout your day (to a certain extent – this is explained below). This is why it’s important to start your day with meditation. It will give you that solid base to start your day from and to carry it over into your life. It doesn’t have to be long – 15 minutes is more than enough for most beginners – but doing it will give you such a massive boost towards being able to stay present in your body that it’s vital that you do it. If you haven’t meditated before and don’t know where to start, try out some guided meditations. There are plenty available on youtube. If you’re interested in REALLY seeing a huge difference, it pays to use the best. The best guided meditation I’ve ever used is included as a bonus with Endgame when you purchase it.  

#2. Practice that focus throughout the day

Spending the first 15 minutes of your day consciously directing your attention on your experience of the present moment is a very powerful platform but if the minute you finish your meditation, you turn the TV on, start listening to the radio, and open 11 tabs on your internet browser, then it’s all going to be a waste. Why? Because the more you practice a skill, the more natural and easy it becomes. If you spend 15 minutes practising the skill of consciously and purposefully directing your attention onto your experience of the moment and then every waking moment from that point on, allowing yourself to be distracted by 3000 different things happening around you, which skill do you think you’re going to be better at: focussing on experience or just following old, unproductive habits? In order to get better at being in your body, you need to practice it consciously and conscientiously throughout your entire day. Here are a couple of ways you can do that:
a. Stop Unnecessary Analysis Whenever you don’t need to be analysing a situation (which I’m positive you’ll find is FAR less than you actually think it is when you start trying this), then don’t. Whenever you’re just sitting or you’re doing menial tasks that don’t require analysis (like washing the dishes, walking familiar routes, cooking familiar dishes), then focus on how you feel. If you struggle with this, upload your guided meditation onto your MP3 player and listen to it whilst you’re doing these menial tasks. b. Put your phone on silent Mobile phones are an amazing source of distraction. ESPECIALLY modern smart phones with texting, push notifications, email, as well as calls. Put your phone on silent and only check it when you finish one task so you can stay focussed and directed. c. Never do more than one thing at once Ever. Don’t multitask, don’t try to be everything for everyone all the time, just focus on doing one thing at one time. The way this will help you is that whilst you’re not practising the skill of noticing your experience, you’re still developing the skill of consciously directing your attention at any given point in time. That will make it far easier to transition back to focussing on your experience when you can than if you’d just let yourself constantly be distracted. This includes only ever having one browser tab open on your Internet explorer, ever (if you NEED to have two to complete a specific task, then do so, but always make sure you close it as soon as you’re done), no pointless browsing to waste time away, never having the TV and computer on at the same time, don’t even try and talk whilst you’re doing something else. One thing at a time. “But what do I do with all the other things that I remember when I’m doing that one task?” Good question. You simply…

#3. Get organised

Being disorganised is one of the simplest and easiest ways to keep yourself stuck in your head. When you’re disorganised, you have to constantly think about the different things you have going on in your world. You have to keep reminding yourself to buy milk, you have to memorise when your appointments are, you have to memorise sequences and procedures to make sure everything’s getting done. If you were more organised, you’d be able to let all of them go whilst still taking care of what needed to be done in your life. Here are the three KEY tools you need for doing that:   a. Diary I’m not talking about a broken hearts, personal sharing and experience recording diary that you can discuss with your girlfriends when you’re having a sleep over. I’m talking about a planning and organising diary. I’m talking about a structured, note taking, task recording, organiser. I have a diary and I write EVERYTHING in it. Literally EVERYTHING I need to remember goes in it. Why? Because it means that I don’t have to remember anything except to check my diary twice a day. When I first started getting organised, I had a little A5 diary that had space on the left hand side separated into hourly sections (to record appointments). After a while, I found I needed more room and so now I have an A4 monster that gives me enough room to record all tasks, appointments and activities as well as being able to record notes and ideas. b. Whiteboard Diaries are great for short term organisation but they’re not great for long term planning. To effectively plan for long term events, you need to have everything sitting in front of you. This is where your whiteboard comes in. Buy yourself a white board and break it up into the different areas of your life (I have one on my desk that has the different projects I’m working on as well as health and fitness as a separate section). In those sections, record all your goals and long term projects. It’ll keep you focussed and directed and mean you don’t have to carry them around in your head.   c. Learn how to use them There’s no point in having a diary or white board if you don’t use either of them effectively. Here’s how I use my diary and whiteboard (I’m not saying this is the best or most effective way of doing things. It’s just the way that works for me.): – Write every activity, exercise, and task that you need to remember down on the day it needs to be done – Always prioritise your tasks ‘A’, ‘B’, or ‘C’. ‘A’s are things that HAVE to be done today, ‘B’s are things that you would like to get done today, and ‘C’s are things that can be done later. – Always start your day by checking your diary and completing the ‘A’s first then moving onto the ‘B’s and then ‘C’s if you have time. – At the end of the day, go through your diary and make sure every activity is accounted for. Its either marked completed, not getting completed, has the initials of the person you’ve delegated it to, or has the date that you’ve moved it to in your diary. This is also the perfect time to go through your diary and prioritise the activities for the next day. – On your white board, write a list of your long term goals and make sure that every activity you’re completing throughout the day is taking you towards your long term goals. – Set aside one afternoon a week to go over your long term goals and either reaffirm your commitment to them or come up with more suitable ones. – Carry your diary with you everywhere. – Put your whiteboard somewhere that you look EVERY SINGLE DAY. Once again, I’m not saying this is the best way or the only way. It’s just the way that I use that works very effectively for me. It means I can let go of everything I need to think about and just focus on experiencing and being instead of analysing and judging.